A friend on Facebook wrote yesterday: "Michigan queers who are into the marriage thing: if there is a court decision today that allows for a window of marriage equality, I can officiate. Feel free to put people in touch with me!"
I think I understand the context in which some gay people call one another "queers." For the same time-honored reason that African-Americans took over rights to use the n-word, and some Polish people call themselves and one another "pollocks," some disabled people call themselves "cripples."
You can't hurt me by calling me the name I call myself.
But most white people and black people agree that the diarrhetic use of the n-word in music lyrics becomes less justifiable as the use of the word in the original pejorative context decreases.
So isn't the gratuitous use of "queer," in a world where no one under 70 would imagine using "queer" as a slur, also beginning to sound, if not old-fashioned, at least a little … queer?
I'm not telling. I'm asking.