Writing Boots

On communication, professional and otherwise.

Tragedy isn’t the only time you find out who your friends are

06.26.2012 by David Murray // 3 Comments

I've known Bill since I was 24 and he was 48. How I'm 43 and he's 66.

We've played many hundreds of rounds of golf together and driven thousands of miles to those golf courses, because we like to play in the country—and talk a lot in the car.

On a heartbreakingly perfect summer day Friday, we went around twice at our very favorite course in the world, the nine-hole Pine Hills, in Ottawa, Ill.

And on the way back—for all two hours—Bill read aloud the Robert Caro biography of Lyndon Johnson—mostly the scene on Air Force One in Dallas on Nov. 22, 1963—and we each fought back tears at many points and roared laughing at others.

Now, it's a really good fucking book, but …

They say you find out who your friends are in tragedy.

You can idenitfy them in joy, too—the peculiar joy you feel when you know you are the only two nuts in the country that consider this the perfect way to spend a perfect day.

You were weirdos to begin with, you acknowledge. But through twenty years of communication, you've made each other even weirder—and in exactly the same direction.

And that's where a measure of pride begins to creep in.

Categories // Uncategorized

Comments

  1. Bill Sweetland says

    June 26, 2012 at 9:19 am

    David:
    The trip back from Pine Hills to Chicago DIDN’T take two hours; it couldn’t have! We got back the 95 miles to Chicago in twenty minutes. Or was I dreaming?
    I had no idea, I swear, that you were as caught in Caro’s toils as I was, choking back tears. I WAS aware that both of us were howling at the assassination antics of that soulless narcissist, LBJ.
    Need I say that for me that day was as perfect and unforgettable as you write. It confirmed me in my belief that the greatest happiness in life is conversation. And by that I don’t mean idle chit-chat and shop talk–although shop talk can assume the dignity of conversation if it brings ideas and reflection to the fore.
    I remember at least a half-dozen things you said that stopped me in my conversational tracks and forced me to ask myself, “Is what he’s saying right? Is it defensible? What do I really believe?”
    And that, I submit, was what made that whole day memorable. I get so little of that exquisite feeling at any time in my life!
    Bill

    Reply
  2. David Murray says

    June 26, 2012 at 10:22 am

    I was getting choked up because you were getting choked up. And the reason you didn’t know it was that it was none of your goddamn business.

    Reply
  3. sac prada pas cher says

    July 9, 2012 at 1:35 am

    Jag var mycket glad över att upptäcka denna webbplats på bing.I ville säga tack till er när det gäller denna fantastiska inlägg! Jag surelyenjoyed varje liten bit av det och jag har du bokmärkt att ta en titt på nya saker du postar.

    Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Now Available

An Effort to Understand

Order Now

SIGN UP TO RECEIVE BLOG UPDATES

About

David Murray writes on communication issues.
Read More

 

Categories

  • Baby Boots
  • Communication Philosophy
  • Efforts to Understand
  • Happy Men, and Other Eccentrics
  • Human Politicians
  • Mister Boring
  • Murray Cycle Diaries
  • Old Boots
  • Rambling, At Home and Abroad
  • Sports Stories
  • The Quotable Murr
  • Typewriter Truths
  • Uncategorized
  • Weird Scenes Inside the Archives

Archives

Copyright © 2023 · Log in

  • Preorder An Effort to Understand
  • Sign Up for Blog Updates
  • About David Murray