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Where in the 朱玫 is my daughter going without me?

11.06.2017 by David Murray // 6 Comments

When my sister and I went to China, we were in our in our thirties. When we got there, we called our dad from a pay phone in the hotel lobby and told him we were in Beijing.

"Oh no!" he said. 

I know how he felt.

Today my daughter Scout, who has been taking Mandarin since she was in kindergarten about 15 minutes ago, flies to China with a few of her eighth-grade classmates to spend two weeks living with 朱玫 and her family. 20171106_074105

Here's what we know about 朱玫 so far. Her mother is a translator, her father is a "manager." Her favorite foods are pizza and chicken. So far, so familiar. (朱玫's hobbies include drawing, reading, music, writing novels. As the kids say, Wait, what?)

When Scout was seven or eight, I put her on an airplane by herself to visit her aunts in Colorado. When she walked down the jetway with the flight attendant, I turned around and everyone at the gate, who had watched me hug her goodbye, watched me burst into tears.

Having kids is watching them walk away from you, one step at a time.

You get used to that.

It's the occasional great leaps that get you.

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  1. Kate Zimmerman says

    November 6, 2017 at 12:56 pm

    Good for her. What a fantastic time she’ll have!

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  2. suki says

    November 6, 2017 at 7:14 pm

    Proud Pop. As it should be.

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  3. Holymole says

    November 7, 2017 at 8:10 am

    It doesn’t change even as they (and we) get older.
    My tears flowed when my daughter left for Uganda. And when she left for Europe. And when she left for Vietnam.
    But despite our tears, they return incredibly enriched by their experiences.
    Scout will have an amazing time. And despite your tears now, nothing — nothing — will be more special than that first hug when she returns.

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  4. David Murray says

    November 7, 2017 at 8:32 am

    OK, but Scout is not going to Uganda without me.

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  5. JohnnyB says

    November 7, 2017 at 10:58 am

    Amazing that she gets to stay in a friends house. So much cooler than a hotel and tour guides, especially in a country where even “pizza” and “chicken” can be an eye-opening experience. It takes brave parenting to have such a brave daughter!

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  6. David Murray says

    November 7, 2017 at 11:00 am

    Brave parenting, John! That’s what I keep telling people! But they keep focusing on the “brave daughter” and what a “fantastic time she’ll have.” Hell!

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